I hope 2023 is off to an excellent start for you!
One thing on my mind this week is the relationship between resolutions, goals, and systems.
Resolutions — We all know that these generally don’t work. If the object of your resolve is so important, why wait until January first?
Goals — These are good, especially if they’re specific, actionable, and include a deadline. But it can be easy to lose focus along the way.
Systems — These are excellent and are the framework you put in place to move you toward your goal.
Systems remove the need to remember and to be organized.
Better yet, systems eliminate the stress associated with playing defense with willpower all day and/or the guilt that arises from not following through.
Systems don’t have to be complicated.
For example, my goal last year was to floss my teeth more regularly. (Did you know that flossing can help prevent heart disease?)
The system I put in place was to simply leave the dental floss on the bathroom counter by my toothbrush instead of hiding it away in a drawer.
Now, just seeing the floss when I brush my teeth is a trigger.
So ridiculously simple, yet so effective.
Maybe your goal is to be more active. Maybe your system could be to join a weekly fitness class or group.
Make it an activity you enjoy, and then open yourself up to new friendships within the group.
After all, friends make friends accountable: “See you next time!” “We missed you last week!”
Friends are also the best motivators and esteem builders: “You look great!” “Wow, your skills have really improved!”
